WHERE DO YOU BEGIN?
To change you need to recognize the gap between where you are and where you want to be. Be it your health, finances, or relationships. That gap is your motivation to make the decision to change and start planning how you’ll go about it. Planning is how you’ll succeed and an important part of that plan is support. While you’ll need to know exactly what steps to take to achieve your goal and what the barriers and challenges will look like, it’s key to choose the right type of person to support you.
WHO WILL STAND BEHIND YOU?
They’ll need to be those you love–like family members; or who actively care about you–like friends who really know you; and those you respect–like members of a support group or colleagues. Just announcing your plan to supportive individuals builds motivation for you to carry through–now it seems real and they can celebrate with your success and encourage you during difficult challenges or setbacks that are a normal part of the change process.
WILL YOU MAKE IT THROUGH?
But that’s not enough. You’ll need to find a way to make your support part of you change plan. to help you accountable. For example, you could give a friend a meaningful sum of money in the beginning. If you fail to achieve your overall goal, they can send it to an organization you hate; that’s strong motivation! Of course they’re also there to remind you of why you’re making this change and cheering you on to success.
CAN YOU DO IT AGAIN?
Not everything you want to change has the same level of difficulty–and support form others won’t change that. But it’s possible to change your behavior and with motivation and encouragement form others these tasks are more likely to succeed.
How have you succeeded with making changes in your life? What kind of support do you find helpful?
Keep an eye next week on 13abc for more on Rebecca’s new book and her segments about making life changes in the new year.