Unlikely but I think the one I’ve used for the last 19 years is close. I may be partial, having gone through a summer-long graduate course with this thin volume as the text. The author and professor was the renowned Mel Silberman, Ph.D. from Temple University’s College of Education. It lays out five points when dealing with your child's difficult behavior.
The Dual Role Of Parents
Before the book starts on the four steps, it reviews the importance of understanding the two roles of "being in charge" and "being involved with your children ensuring you have a balanced relationship.
Some parents are afraid of being too assertive and end up confusing their children by not taking a stand or not following through. Some parents are afraid of being taken advantage of and end up being rigid. "being involved" holds risks as well. There is a need to resist the temptation to become entangled with your child's life as well as becoming too distant out of fear of appearing soft. Both roles are important and both must be played at the same time to be effective.
Get Clear What You Want
Getting clear on the handful of things you willing to go to the mat for is important. If all your child's difficult behavior is equally important, then your energy and focus will be spread too thin to be effective.
Remain Calm and Confident
While it's not always possible or even reasonable to never get upset, it is worth reminding yourself that by staying calm you stay flexible. You pay the bills and provide the food and shelter. You are in charge, you hold all the cards and reminding yourself of this in the heat of the moment will help you feel more confident.
Confidence also helps you to keep your ears open and gathering intel on your child's beliefs and what's influencing him or her rather than having a melt down. Even though it's the third dent in the new family car this month!
Select a Plan of Action
All responses to children's misbehavior can be boiled down to ten basic interventions. This powerful concept shows that several interventions then are associated with one of the four reasons why children act as the do. The insight here is refusing to be paralyzed by the question, "Why does my child act this way?"
Keep an experimenter's mindset when deciding how to intervene with your child. If the first "theory" doesn't work, there are three more and plenty of interventions left to try. Simple interventions like "reminding" or "monitoring" become powerful tools when the right context and mindset is in place.
Obtain Support From Other Adults
Finally, understanding the importance of getting all the adults who influence your children on the same team is stressed. Even if your mother-in-law doesn't approve of your parenting style an agreement that she at least doesn't directly work against you is valuable when dealing with a child's difficult behavior.
The book was formerly titled, "Confident Parenting”, but now the publisher Research Press has picked up publication and retiled it, “When Your Child is Difficult: Solve Your Toughest Child-Raising Problems with a Four-Step Plan That Works”.
Sadly, Dr. Silberman recently passed away from an illness and is sorely missed by thousands of professionals and trainers in both the educational and corporate world who, like me, learned so much from his insightful and fun-loving spirit.