Don't ask your partner a question and don't tell them what to do. Putting your partner on the spot will always get the "I don't know" response. And why not? It isn't a fair question. Like asking a prospective date, "Are you busy Friday night"?
Ask yourself first, what does my partner like? What types of food and places do they enjoy? You need to already know what they love. If you've been together even for just a couple of months you will know what they like and some of their dislikes. On the other hand, your partner isn't always asking to find out what you want to eat, sometimes they're asking so you can show them you already know what they want to eat.
Thinking things through and taking time to plan. Hard not to love the person who makes the effort. They love Thai Satay and you know they just got in shape to run that 5k they last ran five years ago. (so first, you need to know both these things - observe whats going on in your partner's life) You order it and offer to share. They get to have a few bites along with their Cesar salad (no dressing) without feeling guilty. Now to end things right, stop off at the grocery store and grab some greek yogurt, blueberries, and strawberries and make a fresh desert for two.
Yeah, thoughtfulness counts.
How do you make thoughtfulness a part of your relationship? What are your thoughts?